Forgiveness

The art of being able to forgive

When someone said to me that I should forgive everyone who has ever hurt me - I told them that they were nuts!

I was told that you don’t forgive for others, you forgive
for yourself. It took me a long time to get a better understanding of
this. I always thought that forgiveness meant that what they did was
okay and that I was wrong to feel the way I did about what they did.

I then heard someone else say that was not the case - you
need to be clear that you still believe that what they did was wrong,
but you will no longer be consumed by those actions.

Forgiveness is when you can think about the trauma
without being hurt, angry or upset or feel hatred towards the person
who induced the hurt.

I also know that you can only forgive when you are
ready... It took me 10 years. I don’t want it to take you 10 years
because it caused me a lot of anguish. During times when I should’ve
been happy - I couldn’t be. I over-reacted to small things. I was not
able to live life to the full.

You need to do a spring-cleaning of your heart, clear the
blockages and realise that you are really a great person with lots to
give, else you would not have been targetted by an insecure, envious
bully.

Forgive as soon as you can - it’s really the most amazing
feeling to feel secure, fulfilled, loving and kind with no anger in
your heart.

Disclaimer: I know it's easier said than done and even when you master the art, you may still relapse at times.